I made the decision not to have those things when I married a non-member. Go for the joy, the experiences, the children to come. Why would you behave any different now. I'm no pushover; flexing like this just keeps our lives sane. She might be everything you want, but in her eyes you are not what she has been dreaming of her whole life. I married a NOMO after a lengthy temple marriage and divorce. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. Can I leave him now. She's told me the church is one of the most important things to her, but from what I've researched already there's no way I would subject my future children to this culture. It would put him in a position of feeling less and being looked down on.
December 10, at 7: December 10, at December 11, at 6: December 20, at 6: December 10, at 2: December 14, at March 1, at March 8, at 1: March 7, at December 10, at 8: Having dealt with a similar issue all of last week I have a couple things to say. Who knows, maybe a little lighthearted texting is just the 5 minute break he needs. All of which will remind her that she wants you to convert so you can be together for eternity. These exclusions, dictated by doctrine, hold the potential to create wedges between you, both immediately, and in the long term. If you marry for a paycheck and a lifestyle, you are nothing but a gold digger and therefore won't MIND if your husband has a mistress on the side. They believe that the body is a temple that needs to be worshiped, and that inner beauty is more important. They spend so much time together. You can't gamble on her seeing Mormonism for the shit show that it is.
Funny thing is he told me when we met that he was ready to stop focusing so much on work and start focusing more on his life. I chose to move on. Basically this is different than dating a religious mainstream Christian. We had lots of sex and fun.
We'll see how long till last I have my business degree and work in a male Dominated environment so I have choices. But his absence in the spiritual side of my life, and that of my mother, was very hard. I really admire all of you here, who are married but live a very lonely live. See, I am a SAHM and my husband has just gotten accepted into a 4 year pediatrics residency program this year. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from. Sorry, but it just isn't worth it. I've told her that but maybe she doesn't believe me. Many hour days and sometimes 10 days straight without a day off. We have been married 2 years and have a 4 month old baby.