When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. This also means giving her something specific to do. I know that she's even getting her stuff ready to go on her mission. He is truly my soulmate and I shudder to think that if I had not chosen to marry outside of the church, I would not have had this life with him. No easy answers here. Right now she won't even watch a movie. See where it goes.
You should expect that this will define your relationship with her. But I do believe in modern prophets and that God gives no commandment that is not for our own happiness. I married a non-member over 20 years ago.
Calls during thanks giving and Christmas makes me really upset. All faiths have vocabulary unique to them. The two of you can get married in the temple and live together forever for eternity. I was in your same position years ago. You can consider some positive activities and allow you to communicate and learn from each other. I still struggle with the silence in contact or wanting to "rescue" him from the harried schedule. And there's a story I'm going to look again for too. And your future kids will be taught that you are the reason they don't have an "eternal" family. I was not in any way dissing her personally, nor dissing her at all, really Many people here have told the guy to run; I just went into more detail. Especially if they're devote enough to expect you to marry in heaven, huge implications with that one.
If you care about him, you'll be super understanding, maybe take lunch to him or dinner to the hospital A quick kiss and a thank you may be all you will be able to get. Comes home 4 am and 7 am he goes to work again. It sucks but ultimately what Mormonism does to people is it makes them value adherence to church more than their relationships with people. I mean lots of his friends from residency have girlfriends or wives and make it work. If you are in a movie theater, you can't talk, so you can't get to know the girl you are dating. And of course, everyone has a different experience. All of which will remind her that she wants you to convert so you can be together for eternity.