Recognizing your own faults in relationships is hard. These words and similar ones are not new things for people who have toxic behavior. How can someone lean on you when it seems like you only care about yourself? Are you sure? Relationships require not just taking, but also giving. Whatever your partner is asking, even if it unreasonable or annoying AF, you should be willing to listen and consider it. When you love someone, you have to keep an open mind. If yours is closed, your view is toxic. This applies to everything: work, the day-to-day responsibilities of the household, and work within the relationship. You need to consider what you can do FOR your S.
Dear Polly,. At first, casual dating was exactly what I needed. I tried casual relationships a handful of times with guys I had chemistry with, but I realized that they just made me feel bad about myself. I was always so painfully aware of the fact that the only reason these guys were talking to me was because I was letting them sleep with me. I felt like a sex doll. That might have been improved if the sex had been good, but it was mediocre at best. I tried to ignore the feelings and spice up the sex, but nothing worked. That strategy failed miserably, as I found out that I was disqualifying everyone. What I want to know is that if the first couple of months goes well, that I could expect eventually to have a boyfriend. Recently, I met a guy.
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In addition to the full-time job of keeping the relationship going, keeping the sex going can be like a second job. Is it the cleaning horse stalls all summer kind, or the fun lifeguard at the pool kind? The work of it may feel like an interminable slog or it may not feel like work at all. But there is still some kind of work if you have either mismatched libidos due to desire issues, or bad timing due to life issues. One person wants to do it more than the other person, so the person who wants to do it more has to ask for it and initiate it, and that gets old, and then people get really pissy with each other. And when things stall, someone has to initiate. The best sex is the enthusiastic fun kind that happens naturally without the pawing, because the indifferent boring kind is extremely awkward for both parties.