Communication is at an all time low and stress is at an all time high. In response to the anonymous comment posted April 3, I am not married but have been dating a medical student for about four years, he is in his second year of residency and it has honestly been difficult because when he graduated medical school he had to move five hours away to start his residency program so we travel back and forth and our relationship is serious but im scared that things will never get better as far as his busy schedule, even when im there to visit he is on call and im basically on a mini vacation by myself. You just can't imagine the heap o' hurt you're potentially setting yourself up for. We are only engaged and as much as I love him, I can't handle the pain of watching my goals and dreams wash away to be at his disposal. When those are not around or when the circumstances or the spirit indicate otherwise then prayer is more than enough. So marrying a doctor might be ideal for me. I'm a single, financially independent woman. I really wish that I can figure out how to balance the demands of his family and our life together and make everyone happy - I think it is going to be a long road ahead, especially considering that his practice is local to our families.
You are a good person and she can see that. Do you really love him, honey. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members.
I don't care about the money, I have suggested him to downsize if needed for him to work less. I wish you the best of luck. I think it's very helpful that I wasn't nearly as busy for most of our relationship thus farwe got engaged before I got absurdly busy and so it's not like we weren't extremely close. I excused canceling plans, seeing each other only once a week, not being able to text much, etc. Nothing beats a face to face talk. Controlling Behavior in Relationships. If not watch it.
As the patriarchal leader, it will be up to you to figure it out and to dispel her unrealistic fantasies. My youngest starts Kindergarten next fall. The common theme here form the complaining spouses is that few of them seem to have their own lives.